No couple can be compared to another, just like no individual can be compared to another. However, it is very useful to rely on some categories that allow us to understand the nature of the relationships we are experiencing or those we have experienced. There are many categorizations: western psychologists love them. Here, however, we are interested in highlighting the differences that allow and inspire you as a reader to take a leap of awareness that instantly transforms the intent with which you approach the couple’s relationship and the disposition with which you live it.
The three states of the couple: NEED, DESIRE, UNION
Three words that also refer to three different levels of happiness, related to the activation of the three different brains – reptilian, limbic, and prefrontal cortical – tuning also with the other brains that inhabit our body, namely the brain of the heart and the brain of the gut. You can thus begin to understand how the relationship you are building and living depends neurophysiologically on which brain network you can activate, which means what state of personal consciousness, and therefore personal happiness, you have reached.
Love is a matter of inner evolution, like everything else in our life.
There is a complex and bidirectional relationship between consciousness and love. The evolution of your consciousness fosters in you the manifestation of love in ever fuller and happier forms in every area of your life, including the couple’s relationships. Few things can make you evolve as much as a couple relationship, and for this reason, perhaps, the couple is a matrix of the meaning of the human experience so profound. Another fundamental matrix is that of parenthood. The love of the couple in certain phases and seasons is a therapy, which takes place through the mirrors of what is not unconditional but, if accepted, leads to the unconditional. There is a living energy that flows through each of us, neither right nor wrong, neither beautiful nor ugly. Simply what it is, our tribute to Life. Our task is only to manifest it to the maximum degree of its vibration.
